unsolicited advice: of monsters called men!

The Shakespearean tragedy, "Othello:  The Moor of Venice" is one of my favourite stories.  Not because it ends sadly (I hate sad endings!), but because it shows the obvious lapses of human nature.  Human error at its defining moment.  The film shows how easily our belief systems can be swayed by the smallest (and often meaningless) utterances that quickly cast that shadow of doubt.  And it begins to build.  Why then do we fall too easily into the traps of our often unreliable emotions and often overactive imaginations?  "Othello" tells of how a skilled Moor rises to the ranks to become a general in the Venetian army, and goes on to marry Desdemona, a woman of beauty and substance.  This was not a commonplace feat in his times because Othello was a coloured man.  Yet despite being a virtuoso, his extreme insecurity gets the best of him.  Othello was led to believe by the villain Iago that Desdemona had been carrying on with his right-hand man (I don't remember his name).  And in a fit of crazy jealousy, he ends up smothering his innocent wife Desdemona in her sleep.  She dies, of course and in the end he realises his stupidity and commits suicide.  Normally, I love the Bard comedies best of all.  I grew up reading about the wit-wowing woman, like Katharina from "The Taming of the Shrew" and Beatrice from "Much Ado about Nothing."  But I shan't digress further.

A buddy of mine has been calling me regularly to talk because he's been having problems with his girlfriend.  I don't understand why, in a world where love is so hard to find, a couple would rather fight endlessly about stupid things than just get along.  I don't get it.  I don't!  She has made some snide remarks about my friendship with her boyfriend.  Normally she can comment away, but she & I have never met so wonder why I'm the belle of her balls (Dudette's got cojones!).  Stupid git thinks I'm zeroing in on her guy.  
(Hello???)  

Rational piece of love advice Lady Gaga- stop whinging at him and he will stop calling me.  It's because he can't talk to you that I have to do all the listening.  Do you think that helps- that I'm the one listening to him?  He wonders what goes on in your head.  He's not alone though.  I wonder why you give him hell when you can just be pleasant and happy.  I've never been a fan of drama and nitpicking-- two of your current favourite pastimes I heard.  Finding someone  is one very hard feat and you have succeeded in finding someone who loves you with utmost passion.  Why bother with all the fighting?  Why don't you just make it easy on yourself?  

Stop playing fire with Green-eyed Jealousy.  You won't win!   Jealousy plants unsubstantiated ideas in your head.  So snap out of it, because-

(1.)  I'm not attracted to your boyfriend.  

(2.)  I don't have the "When Harry Met Sally" syndrome.  Never happened and never will.

  (3.)  And most of all, I don't need to grab your guy.  Give me bigger credit naman.  

Also, in all honesty, men are dawgs.  They are.  (Ask them and they will concur in an instant!)  If they want to cheat, they will cheat.  Regardless of what you do (or don't do).  

Every friendship, every relationship, is bound to fall apart when you start keeping things to yourself.
Secrets don't destroy things...but suspicion does.. 

Trust your man.  I daresay you have a good one.  Just give him a shot.  There aren't a lot of things I can ascertain, but believe me when I say you need not shackle a good man.  You will find that even when you let him loose, he will be eager to return into your arms- voluntarily.  Remember that a man who doesn't deserve to be in your life need not complicate it with his presence longer than necessary, and the one who deserves to be there will make things infinitely easy for you.  Believe me.  Men and women- we're not all that different really.  We all wish to possess our one great love, forever.  So for you, the battle is half won.  All you have to do is enjoy the ride.  He wants to love you forever.  Let him.  And stop including me in the picture.  I'm not into threesomes and I have no desire to be a part of anything more.  Men and women can be just friends.  Because that's what he and I are.

That's it, that's all.